10 Anger Management Tips To Help When The Rage Hits You ...

I?m not immune to getting angry. ?Sometimes I?m just to tired, or unsure how to deal with the threat to be able to manage it. ?This is why some anger management techniques can be helpful, here are 10.

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1. Just walk away

When situations get tense and anger mounts, its time to cool off. ?Take some time away from the person or situation before coming back. ?If the other person tries leaving, let them. ?You do NOT need an answer right here, right now. ?Five, ten minutes, even a day or two will not really impact the situation that much.

2. When calm, express to the other that you are angry

Letting it be known to the other parties involved that what they said or did will often help you overcome and put aside your anger. ?You will often find that if you let them know in a non confrontational way like: ?What you said/did, has caused me to be a considerable amount of anger?, that the anger you felt is not necessary. ?Many times you feel insulted the insult was only in your own head, they didn?t intend it that way at all. ?Check out my Control Your Anger Before It Controls You guide to help figure out the source of much of your anger.

3. Hit the weights (or some other exercise)

If you are about to explode on someone then perhaps its best you do some sort of physical activity, aside from hitting them. ?Getting out for a walk, lifting weights, or hitting a punching bag, can all be great ways to release your anger.

4. Think first, talk second

When you are angry, its easy to say something you don?t really mean. ?Having regrets about what you say and do to others because of how you think and feel about yourself are the worst kinds. ?Give yourself time to think about what you want to say, and lets others do the same.

5. Find solutions

Anger often gets worse the more you focus on what mad you angry in the first place. ?Instead, forget about it and try to find a solution. ?If the dishes are dirty, do a wash. ?If a room is always messy, close the door, or spend your time in another room, or clean it up.

6. Use ?I? statements

When you are angry it is easy to place blame or criticize others, which generally only makes the tension worse. ?Using an ?I? statement helps you to describe how the action/statement affected you, and allows them to stay calm instead of pushing you farther.

7. Forgive and forget

Even if you talk about something with another person and make agreements sometimes people forget. ?Its really unrealistic to expect others to act exactly as you want all the time. ?Instead of holding a grudge and constantly bringing up things from the past, let them go and forgive them. ?After all, are you perfect? ?Do you sometimes find yourself doing things you get upset at others for?

8. Make a joke

Genuine humor can really lighten the mood and cut the tension. ?Sarcasm however can only hurt feelings more, so avoid it. ?This may not be the easiest thing to do at first, and may be easier to do after taking time out has been done first.

9. Use relaxation techniques

Using relaxation techniques when you temper ignites is a great way to help reduce the anger. ?Tell yourself ?You are competent and whole just as you are? or ?Easy does it? or even ?I?m not under attack, the attack is in my head?. ?You may also try counting to 3 while you inhale and exhale, or anything else that is going to encourage you to stay relaxed. ?Dropping your shoulders may help as you may get tense and feel them clench up.

10. Get help sooner than later

If you find yourself resorting to physical retaliation or verbal assaults more often than not, its beyond time to get help. ?Do everything you can to find a counselor, an audio course, a book, or another friend or website to help you deal with and control your anger. ?You may even look into a local anger management course or meeting.

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